James was married to Mehitable (maiden name unknown) They were married in Saybrook, CT. (date unknown) and after the birth of first two children, James & Mehitable, they moved to Middletown where the other children were born. James' parents were James Lord and Sarah Goodrich, daughter of David Goodrich and Prudence Churchill.

James' wife, Mehitable put up a bond on March 13, 1776 in Middletown and requested to be the administrix of her late husband's estate. The judge approved and appointed her to administer the estate.

Distribution (Settlement) of James Lord's Estate, April 27, 1781, Middletown, CT.
Heirs: wife, Mehitable; sons, James & Hezekiah; daughters, Mehitable, Elizabeth, Lydia & Mary Ann.