Phebe Reed was born 25 November, 1740 in Lyme, Connecticut. Her parents are Jonathon Reed (Reade) and Elizabeth Smith.
Anthony and Phebe met and were married in 1761 in Massachusetts. They had nine children born to them; Amos Stoddard, 1762 – 1813; Phebe Stoddard, 1764 – 1800; Philo Stoddard, 1765 – 1848; Lavinia Stoddard, 1768 – 1802; Anthony Stoddard (IV), born 1769; Curtis Stoddard, 1771 – 1840; Simeon Curtis Stoddard, 1776 – 1848; Lucy Stoddard, 1782 – 1840; and Eliakim III Stoddard, 1784 – 1815.
Anthony died 16 November, 1785 in Bur Lanesboro, Berkshire County, Massachusetts.
We know Phebe had at least one sister, Elizabeth who married Israel Stoddard, the brother of Anthony Stoddard, III. We believe that Elizabeth died in Ohio in 1824.
We do not know when Phebe died. We know that sometime after Anthony died, she married Samuel Benham (after his wife died in 1787). "In May 1804, Amos Stoddard wrote to his mother, "Mrs. Benham," from St. Louis, Missouri as First Civil Commandant of uppper Louisiana - so we know she was still alive then. He did not mention his mother's passing in his autobiography which leads me to believe she may have still been alive in 1812. It is unknown when or where Phebe Reade Stoddard Benham died. Her burial place has yet to be found." (Info from Robert Stoddard 49338315).